I just learned the term “Introverted Extrovert.”  Like many people, I had assumed we’re either one type or the other.  The Extroverts among us are the “social butterflies” who love a good party—the bigger the better—and the Introverted folks are shy, retiring homebodies who would rather be alone with a good book.  Well, I was wrong, according to BuzzFeed, anyway.  

Here are a few of the qualities Buzzfeed lists as “Things Only an Introverted Extrovert Will Understand:”Even though you like socializing, there’s nothing you love more than just chilling at home.

Having too many social obligations stresses you out.

You enjoy talking but hate talking on the telephone.

And even though you’re great at small talk, you can’t stand that, either.

You love being around people but also dislike being around people at the same time.

Which means you really, really value your alone time.

You spend way more time in your head than people think.

You greatly appreciate silence.

You’re regarded as the loud, outgoing one of the group, so you often have to take time out to recharge.

Your extrovert tendencies make you a born leader but your introvert tendencies mean you rarely want to be.

Some time ago I wrote a blog about “being dreadful” here in which I explained that I often dread going to parties and other events and inevitably have a good time once I’m there.  Although I didn’t know it then, I was describing an Introverted Extrovert.  That blog got a big response.  Apparently there are many of us out there.  I hope to hear from some of you soon—but just briefly and please, not on the telephone.




About Alexis

Alexis Rankin Popik, author of Kiss Me Over the Garden Gate, is an award-winning short story writer whose work has appeared in The Berkshire Review and Potpourri Magazine. She has penned numerous articles about local history that have been published in Connecticut Explored and the University of Connecticut School of Law and The Hartford Seminary publications. A former union organizer, Popik traveled the country educating shipyard workers about health and safety and founded a labor-management health plan before turning to writing fiction full-time. She lives with her husband in New England.
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