Bi or ByeBye?

A married man divorces his wife becauseBisexual Symbol“something is missing” in their marriage. She is surprised that he is unhappy and heartbroken that their marriage is over. It is only later than she learns he is gay (or maybe bisexual?) and has married a gay man. This is the beginning of my novel-in-progress.

Does this situation seem improbable? It isn’t. Whether we are unconcerned with the sexual preference of others, are proponents of gay marriage, or believe that homosexuality is a “disease” that can be “cured,” all of us know someone who is gay or lesbian and some of us have friends whose spouses have left a marriage to take up with a person of the same sex. For the spouses left behind, it is often a terrible shock. Some may feel that they failed as a partner; others wonder how they could have been oblivious of their mate’s sexual preference.

Can sexual preference change over time and why? One answer to this is that the partner who said “Bye bye” and turned to a same-sex mate is “Bi”sexual. Some research and mainstream articles on the subject assert that bisexuality does not exist; there are equally convincing arguments that bisexuality exists but is overlooked and misunderstood.  For purposes of my fictional marriage, it doesn’t matter because the novel explores love between couples. I expect that now that Oregon’s Kate Brown is the first openly bisexual governor in US history, there will be a wider public discussion on the subject.

I am interested in readers’ opinions on the subject.  If you care to share your experience or opinions about the subject, please contact me. All communications are confidential.

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About Alexis

Alexis Rankin Popik, author of Kiss Me Over the Garden Gate, is an award-winning short story writer whose work has appeared in The Berkshire Review and Potpourri Magazine. She has penned numerous articles about local history that have been published in Connecticut Explored and the University of Connecticut School of Law and The Hartford Seminary publications. A former union organizer, Popik traveled the country educating shipyard workers about health and safety and founded a labor-management health plan before turning to writing fiction full-time. She lives with her husband in New England.
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